Notes to self: Morning Pep Talk

It’s a new day and I’m ready but first before you leave the comfort of your bed sheets remember:

You’re not the opinions of others. People will  try to label you, tell you who you are and what you’re meant to be doing, but they’re wrong. Don’t give other people, especially those who you don’t care about or respect, the power to define you.

Its okay to have bad days, I’m generally optimistic and am constantly reading books and articles on how to be happier, but I’ve realised that no matter how hard I try not everyday is going to be perfect, don’t feel guilty for not being 100% everyday. Everybody has down days so invest in some self care time, relax and allow yourself to feel whatever it is you need to feel. Ignoring that you’re not feeling good will slowly, but surely make you feel worse in the end so prioritise your wellbeing and remind yourself its okay not to always feel great because you’re human.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. As cliche as that saying is it’s true. I find myself spending hours agonising over something embarrassing that happened or worrying about something that in the grand scheme of things is insignificant. My mantra when it comes to annoying things that happen in my life is “is this going to matter in 10 years, 5 years or even next month?” a lot of the times I realise that it won’t and life gets a little bit less stressful. Unnecessary worrying wastes time energy and drains your happiness so focus on the things that really matter and are within your control

Happiness comes from within. I usually feel at my happiest when I’m having a good time with the people I love but if there’s one thing I’ve learnt about friendship is that though I know some amazing people they’re still human and will disappoint me at some time. Remember that happiness comes from within and that you are in control of how you choose to respond to the things that can have a negative effect on your life.

No matter how long the storm is the sun will eventually come out again. sometimes we go through bad times that come close to destroying us, we lose friendships, people, dreams and sometimes ourselves and it genuinely does feel like things aren’t ever going to get better. But trust me things to get better, it might take a while it may be painful but things will get better, try to stay optimistic and move forward rather than letting your current situation stop you from seeing a better future.

Your words have immense power and as much as you wish you had a time machine it’s impossible to go into the past and take back your words or say what you should have. Your words have the power to change the lives of the people around you so use them for good. People underestimate the effect of the little things you can say to brighten somebody’s mood from a simple good morning to a stranger, a  thank you and smile to a restaurant server or a genuine I really appreciate you to someone you love. That goes the other way too “the only word you regret more than the one you left unsaid are the ones you used to intentionally hurt someone” don’t say something unnecessarily hurtful in the heat of the moment, honesty is important but even the smallest of insult can have a serious effect on someone in the long run so use your words for good.

The world is really quite beautiful if you look around. Sunlight, nature, laughter, smiles perfectly organised bookshelves… we’re surrounded by so much beauty but it’s easy to forget that when you’re watching the news and hearing about everything bad that happens or writing about how not so nice your day was. Try to see the beauty in every moment, look for silver linings in each situation and the best in the people you come into contact with.

Okay, put on something that makes you feel beautiful, get some really nice food into you and seize the day.

All the love

Rufaro

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